What Infertility Means To Me

Infertility means different things to those whose womb it has struck. Each woman deals with infertility in her own special way, and for some, perhaps, infertility is harder than for others. However, I would venture to say that it always brings grief. But perhaps, as in my life, it can also bring joy...

Infertility used to be that which God was using to withhold His blessings and goodness from me (and my husband).

Infertility meant that I had to “endure” another baby shower, and hold someone’s newborn baby, knowing that God had not chosen to give a baby to us. There were times when I had to hear yet another pregnant woman complain about how uncomfortable she was, when I would have given anything for that discomfort.

Infertility meant that I would sit in silence with other women while they talked about their children. Every once in awhile someone would notice my silence and try to change the subject. I didn't want to change the subject....I just wanted to be able to join in.

Infertility made me wonder if God knew something about me that I didn't know. I wondered if I would be a bad mother, and God was protecting children from me. Infertility made me doubt the good work that God was doing in my life.

Infertility was my enemy.

Infertility made me look deep inside to see if I really cared about God's dreams for my life, or if I only wanted my own.

Infertility taught me what it really means to surrender to God's will and plans, and to walk forward, trusting my Savior.

Infertility showed me that God's ways are so much higher, so much deeper, so much better than my own.

Inferility is my friend.

Infertility...Oh yes, at times, you bring that unexpected pang back into my heart, but then I remember the friend that you have become. The road that I did not want to travel has led me to my greatest joys....my dear, beloved children!

Infertility, it is ok for you to stay.....for God has shown us that our children will come home, but they will come through another door....And I desire no other children than those whom God has chosen for us!